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Emma Svanberg – Birth Confidence Summit

Find fully downloadable cribsheets explaining what trauma is, Am I traumatised? Self care for couples and many other topics on the Make Birth Better Website

Read Emma's book Why Birth Trauma Matters

Experienced clinical psychologist Dr Emma Svanberg works with parents and parents to be, as well as professionals working with parents. She brings over ten years of academic and clinical experience to offer evidence based support and guidance to help you through your journey as a parent or a parent supporter. A published author, speaker, campaigner and researcher, Emma lives in London with her partner and children.  She is also regional coordinator for the Positive Birth Movement

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The pressure of the two extremes of stories, scary horrible birth or the 'Gold Standard' and how all nuance is lost. 

4.20 The different dialogue that happens for men and women and how pregnancy can be considered a 'weakness; particularly in the workplace.

Starting point of what do I want for this baby now.

6.22 A vulnerable time where we are bombarded with information often from unqualified people who know nothing about pregnancy but have an opinion all the same.  We are in a different mental space with different hormones and need to understand and accept that and honour where we are at.

11.05  All about Make Birth Better including crib sheets to support and inform

18.25 How do you respond to stress in ordinary life will inform how you do in pregnancy and help you be prepared. Your partner can take on the role of your prefrontal lobes so you can keep your brain switched off.

21.30 The importance of stories and noticing that sometimes the older generation can be negative as they had to power on and cope and pack away their own challenges.

24.49 Emma's vision for the future with trauma informed support for all including compassionate support for staff trauma.

30.00 All about the 'nice girl' and how she shows up as 'doctor knows best' in a maternity setting. But in birth we are not unwell so it is not the same as seeking out a doctor for an illness.

34.45 Conditioning that means women trying to be assertive are often considered to be aggressive that can prevent women from speaking up.

36.00 Urgent need to challenge the idea of not raising your head above the parapet. the irony of disappointment when we didn't aim high to not feel disappointed and the trickiness of learning what our needs are when we have suppressed them.

38.00 Learn what our body is telling us. Mindfulness is a good tool

Know that what you do has value.

Jo Bolden – Birth Confidence Summit

Link to the NPA Process mentioned in the video where you can also download a free process sheet and have a go yourself.

Jo's Bio

Often heard saying 'Stand like you mean it' and 'You don't get this moment twice', Jo is an enthusiast. About dance and about life. A dancer, choreographer and dance educator with experience from across the globe, spanning film, TV and live performance. A writer and former children's talent agent. Creatively Jo is particularly recognised for her signature unique styles of lyrical, jazz and jazz funk but known for her work with dancers to unleash powerful presence and connection in each moment. 

She takes this effervescent energy into international conventions, intensives, choreography, lectures and classes for teachers, professional, pre-professional, competitive and recreational dancers across the USA, from Washington DC to Denver, Canada, England, New Zealand and for various high profile studios, institutions and workshops in her hometown of Sydney, Australia.

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Jo discusses her particular fears as a 'reformed perfectionist' feeling responsible for a tiny being inside and being hyper aware of her choices and consequences for her health.

She booked a midwife to see her during pregnancy who supported her to continue doing what felt right for her body - ie continuing to dance until 8.5 months.

The mismatch between the risk she was assigned being or 'advanced maternal age' and her actual health and the positive attitude of the actual caregivers and consultants she saw.

11.00 Using walking as a moving meditation that worked well for Jo

Challenges of a system that felt corporate and being determined to find the right people for her and her wife and baby to support them on their journey within that system.

18.00 Having faith and determination those people existed and would be found

A dramatic start to labour but being informed about choices and what they would be offered made all the difference to how the birth story went.

22.25 Negotiating a non invasive method to help the birth along. Why are non invasive methods not offered first?

29.50 Utilising skills as a dancer and counting through the contractions

35.18 holding the vision through all challenges

Adjusting to life as a mother - a whole new universe opening up even though it is also hard at times.

38.34 Using healing and clearing tools such as The NPA Process and The Compassion Key. and also just being present with her body and emotions and letting them move through. Women's circles that have given her strength to be vulnerable and transparent.

46.00 Start by finding your people to support you. Know they are out there and then go about finding them so you are not alone with your fears. Fears spoken out loud in a safe space dissipated.

49.00 How it has all been worth it even though until recently didn't even know she would want children. It deepened her connection with herself and she has learnt that hard and glorious can coexist in the same time and place and that is ok.


Debs Neiger: Birth Confidence Summit

Debs' Bio

I'm Debs, I'm an independent midwife in the North of England. working with the Yorkshire Storks Midwifery Collective I came to independent midwifery 16 years ago, after the birth of my first child, supported by independent midwives and after feeling utter disillusionment while working for the NHS. I thrive on relationship-based midwifery with honesty and authenticity and helping women enable themselves to make the right choices for THEM without fear or coercion, be that a freebirth or an elective caesarean.

Here is Debs Guest blog - The Oxytocin Quandary  on Blood to baby website that I reference in the interview. An interesting comparison of our natural oxytocin and artificial oxytocin as used in the induction process.
Here is a video about the Fetoscope as Debs didn't have hers to hand.

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Debs started working as an independent midwife whilst on maternity with her first son.

3.32 Postnatal care is invaluable and Debs really appreciated this with her independent midwife.

6.00 Debs shares her reason to choose home birth and how the birth went.

10.00 Fascinating to experience birth from the other side and to feel what was going on insider her body.

11.08 Debs shares her second child's birth story.

15.18 Trusting your own intuition and knowing what to do. Debs actually broke her own waters!

17.30 When do you call the midwife? Debs tells you might get it wrong and that’s OK as there is no hard and fast rule. Don’t go by the numbers as there is lots variance in numbers and in women and in different pregnancies

24.30 Debs explains what a  fetoscope is and how she uses it to check babies including their position. A skill that we are losing that is very useful. 

33.40 Debs shares her bafflement that half of women are not deemed capable of starting their labour spontaneously and how this is not what she sees in her own practice where induction is rare. Plus striking a balance on having important nuanced conversations to support a woman to make choices.

43.45 Supporting a Vbac for Debs is kind of a non issue as support with physiology of birth and choices is just as important as for anyone else and if it is not going well there would be warning flags that pop up.

47.00   Debs discusses respect versus trust for birth. 

49.59 We need to see women as more than just  a vessel to give her the best care.

55.00 How helpful it is for both women and care providers to be very direct and say what you need and what you  want.

Alexia Leachman – Birth Confidence Summit

Alexia's book. Fearless Birthing: Clear your Fears for a Positive Birth

Learn about the Fearless Mama Ship - A self Help 'Netflix' for the Journey to Motherhood

Alexia Leachman Bio

Alexia is a mindset coach, an author and the host of the award-nominated podcasts Fear Free Childbirth and The Head Trash Show, which, together have been downloaded over 650,000 times in over 180 countries. Alexia overcame her extreme fears to have two fear-free home births and she now helps women to overcome their fears and anxieties so that they can approach their birth with confidence. 

Alexia has helped thousands of women worldwide to lose the fear and claim their positive birth experience through her private sessions, her online programmes and products, and, of course, her podcast. She is the author of Fearless Birthing and Clear Your Head Trash.

Alexia appears regularly in the press, TV, radio and online including the BBC, SKY and ABC and has been featured in Huff Post, Mail Online, Psychologies, Red, Easy Living and Mother & Baby magazines.

The Fear Free Childbirth is an award-nominated podcast to help pregnant mamas prepare for a positive, fear-free childbirth experience. It’s a mix of positive birth stories, birth experts sharing their wisdom and Alexia sharing advice on mindset and tackling fears.

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Despite her stress and grief Alexia was able to pull her fear clearance skills and as a coach together and changed her plan from c-section to a home birth. This led to changing career from working mostly with men to helping women to clear their fears of birth and a popular podcast.

Book fearless birthing and many products on website for all budgets

6.30 Women are not always speaking up as their fears get minimised. It is acceptable to say we are a bit worried and then put up with it.

9.42 Starting motherhood with a birth you enjoyed that you wanted even if it wasn’t the way you planned it sets you up in a good place for mother hood. Set yourself up for a great birth experience  and stack the cards in your favour as birth can be a defining moment for you as a mother.

12.22 All about tokophobia- a pathological fear of birth and/ or pregnancy including  primary and secondary tokophobia. Trauma is usually at the root of tokophobia even if you can't remember it.

14.00 Alexia's personal story of tokophobia including her  fear of seeing bumps, fear of delivery and wanting to be knocked out.  The impact on women who cannot release including multiple abortions of wanted babies and relationship breakdowns.

18.32 It is OK to be scared and OK to ask for help. Seek help now to give you enough time to process emotionally and know that the fears can be released and usually more quickly than you may think.

20.43 Should I wait until I am tryingfor a baby to clear my fears? You may hit fertility problems due to the fears , for example the stress may cause inflammation in your tubes. Living with fear on a daily basis which doesn’t feel nice so don’t wait.

22.51 Can't change the past but can change our relationship with the future.  Phobias are defined as irrational but actually the reasons are rational to each woman and calling it irrational dismisses that woman's lived experience.

27.30 The Vision is to be in control of your destiny and the one making the decisions.   Nonsense to eradicate like not supporting home birth ( Alexia has just moved to France and contrasts the two systems in UK and France)

Make a difference in schools, you can ask teachers what they teach about birth in schools.

34.00 Women  who have babies early e.g. as teenagers are more likely to have a positive experience with zero preparation and no classes as they haven’t encountered all the negative narratives round birth. 

Birth is different for everyone but we can change how we think about it as it changes the experience for us.

37.00 We are more than only the motherhood part and birth can enable a lot of the other parts to come out. Reclaim the value of mother as well as other roles in your life.

39.31 A simple place to start is to read positive stories and maybe watch good births on youtube. Caveat: Women with tokophobia can’t do that , this is too triggering. If this is you , you may need to start with therapeutic support.

42.23 Discussing all the ways women get undermined including feeling vulnerable, listening to doubts from others and not knowing that you can put your foot down and you do the allowing.  Getting clear on what you want in time to set in place especially in the US.   Make your decisions from an informed place.

47.00 You can sail through obstacles if you are getting the right support There are groups out there if the one you are in is not supportive find one that is. E.g. fb forums and local groups

50.00 Know that you have everything in you to have this birth even if you cannot access it straight away.  Self trust is not easy to learn but you can learn it and birth can help you learn to trust your body.  It is all within.

Dr. Amali Lokugamage – Birth Confidence Summit

Lecture: Undoing systemic biases and privileges in maternity  care starts at 3 minutes 20.

Below are the books that are referenced in the interview including Dr. Amali's own book about her birth experience and how it transformed her, The Heart in The Womb

White Fragility by Robin Diangeld

Witches Midwives and Nurses by Deirdre English and Barbara Ehrenreich

Dr. Amali Lokugamage Bio.

Amali Lokugamage is a Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist and is Deputy Lead of the Clinical and Professional Practice Department of UCL Medical School. She worked on a UCL decolonising the medical curriculum project. Dr Lokugamage is interested in equality, diversity, human rights in healthcare and improving professional behaviours. She has an interest in holistic obstetrics and gynaecology. Dr Lokugamage has written a book called The Heart in the Womb: An Exploration of Human Love and Social Cohesion.

Dr Amali Lokugamage also has a You Tube Channel where you can view more of her work and  lectures including, The Costs of institutional births and Mindfulness, Resilience and Panic Attacks as well as her interview with Suzanne Arms embedded below.

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3.20  Undoing systemic biases and privileges in maternity  care starts. 

Discussing :

  • Power imbalances in maternity care
  • Maternal mortality
  • Decolonisation
  • Cultural safety
  • Privilege frailty

7.25 liberating the curriculum. Challenging the  Eurocentric, white male dominated curriculum

15.27 Power hierarchies in medicine

21.17 Pedagogical changes including teaching students to detect differing symptoms in different skin tones.

25.33 High profile example: Serena Williams

26.45 Dr Rupa Marya Video clip about woman being nearly missed for having a stroke as Doctors dismissed her pains.

31.10 Cultural Safety

32.20 Unconscious bias training.

33.38 Geographic bias

38.23 Well being agenda and indigenous healing ideas

40.07 Procedures of Limited Clinical Effectiveness -  not looking at all evidence only considering NICE.

45.26 Next steps for diversity equality and decolonising health care

51.16 Dr. Amalis experience of becoming a mother.

Natalie Meddings – Birth Confidence Summit

Natalie's Books and links to studies quoted in the video.

Birth Place Cohort Study :The Birthplace national prospective cohort study: perinatal and maternal outcomes by planned place of birth Birthplace in England research programme.

Perinatal or neonatal mortality among women who intend at the onset of labour to give birth at home compared to women of low obstetrical risk who intend to give birth in hospital- A systematic review and meta-analysis - Hutton Et Al

Natalie's Bio

Natalie Meddings is a doula, active birth teacher, mother of three and founder of the mother-matching support site, tellmeagoodbirthstory.com. The site moves around by word of mouth and for eight years now, has kept travelling, from mother to mother to mother - proof of the simple power positive birth stories hold. Ground-up is how Natalie believes women's confidence in birth can grow, from powerful stories, ordinary support - one to one exchanges where one woman simply passes on the things she's learned about childbirth to the next.

Her book How to Have a Baby follows the same path, a practical, hands-on guide to what a woman needs and how she can get that met. Her second book. Why Home Birth Matters is a clear, fact-based conversation on how at a time where birth without intervention is at an all time low, home setting and support can provide women with the best of all possible worlds.

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Currently 2% of women choose home birth.  This means 98% say I feel confident about having a baby in hospital ; why when it gives you the worst odds of a normal birth of anywhere? From a consumer perspective women are opting for the hardest place to give birth.  The hospital added a level of unpredictability and variables that were not seen when birth was predominantly at home earlier in the century.

7.04 The idea of opting in for medical assistance rather than opting in for home care.  In birth women are opting for the strongest' insurance policy' ie the hospital they can find which by default gives them the least chance of the ordinary birth they want.

10.00 They myth that medical staff are insisting on the interventions. The reality is that you run out of road in hospital where you are on the clock and observed which interrupts your natural biology and flow.

14.27  It is  cultural confronting idea to the system and strange to us in the public tto not choose to be tracked for example with scans and Vaginal examinations. Once we understand that we can feel progress the brain clicks into place.

16.06 We recognise we can tune into how our child is once they are born but this is already the case in pregnancy. In the hospital a sense of self management and what do I need to do is created and this is a mental process that is impeding the flow of knowing what it feels to follow her bodies cues.

19.15 At home we do not have to manage ourselves and be vigilant and we know the rules and have the power.

The myth that the first time mother doesn't know what to do. Her body does know this is biology and it is primal.

26.00 There is a place for more support for first time mothers.   Remember the birth place study confirms that it is very safe for a baby in any setting and Hutton et Al study in August 2019 confirms 

29.50 If home gives the best of all possible worlds why do we still go to the hospital- peoples misconceptions fear of media and talk of risk. Looking at making decisions based on prejudice and not evidence.

31.59 Debunking myths of mess, noise and frightening the children if we birth at home. And a look at the fears of danger for the baby such as not breathing when the baby is born and what will really happen. Also what happens if you bleed at home.

39.54  In 1953 most women gave birth at home and 90% of women had no interventions so clearly the question to be asked in the case of intervention is- Would this have happened at home? but no-one is asking it this way round.

41.03 Natalie takes us through a detailed example of a woman who has a home birth that ends in a transfer to demonstrate how birth unfolds and we follow the cues of the body with timely transfer arranged/

50.40 Understanding the biology to see why birth at home works- home ticks all the boxes to help keep you pelvis free and your body and ligaments pliant. How the hormones flow and at 100% in the right setting and this makes birth easier and swifter.

58.00 At home the baby is the torch bearer and we all follow its journey and they come. Everyone is listening to them and following their lead.

1.03 Birthcentres are partly the reason that an increase in home births has stalled. The question to ask of your birth centre is to ask the  stats on who stays there to actually give birth. Does London skew the stats?

1.05  How apps are missing the point and can make birth longer as mother has to observe herself rather than going into her feelings.  Women move from rest to rest at home and work with the good bits.

1.09 Michel Odent talks of how women in hospital are deprived of the  transcendent state of birth. No one is doing this on purpose, but the hospital acts as gatekeeper on accessing deep alternative states of consciousness. It is a privilege and honour to witness life force and what it is capable of.

1.14 Home birth gives the best chance of having a mother and baby in good shape after the birth.

1.17 if you are listening to your body and choose hospital then this is what is right for you which is not the same as going in through fear and not instinct. Find your truth and stick to it. 


Amber Marshall – Birth Confidence Summit

Quick Links to Resources mentioned in the Interview

BigBirthas: UK Information  and support for bigger mums and mums-to-be.

Well Rounded Mamas is the US site that Amber used before setting up her UK site and may be useful for you if you are in the USA.

The BRAIN Acronym to help you make decisions 

Amber's Bio

Amber Marshall established BigBirthas.co.uk in 2010 as a source of information and support for high BMI pregnancy, after some poor personal experiences of maternity care.

Almost 10 years of campaigning later, she’s sad to report that high BMI pregnancies still aren’t being treated positively, holistically, and individually, but small improvements here and there are happening. At the very least, the site has helped a group of women feel more confident and vocal about their birth choices, with a thriving community of Big Birthas supporting each other on Facebook. Amber has two children aged 7 and 9 and lives in Birmingham.

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Getting pregnant quickly was the first indication that being overweight may not be as bad as the messages Amber was getting about risks.

The trap of listening to the relative risk without considering the absolute risk.

Remember that the majority of women go on to have healthy pregnancies and births despite the risks.t.

4.00  Big Birthas website  focuses on the research and contrasts with how it is reported in the media so you can make an informed decision.

4.24  Refused to fall for the fear-mongering in her second pregnancy and questioned that even though there may be an increased risk, if that risk does not come to pass then why be treated differently?

The irony of high BMI women being monitored and asked to lie on the bed, the opposite of what make birth easier and then blaming the woman's size for poor outcomes.

6.29 Comparing the attitude of a netball coach wanting the best out of her team to maternity systems. What would happen to her netball team if she banged on about what they did wrong last week and what could go wrong in their next match?

10.06 A Canadian study looked at outcomes for high BMI women if we remove confounding factors and found no statistically significant difference.

12.52 Policies can come in due to a theoretical good idea without evidence to back it up such as treating women with Clexane in an attempt to reduce risk of DVT. Ask for evidence.

17.26 When tests are repeated due to not showing a positive result that supports the risk. What is going on there?

22.00  How the way women are treated can affect mental health and result in women removing themselves from the system.  

23.56  Debunking the 'fat vagina 'myth that raised its head in a recent interview with Dr Marco Gaudoin, a fertility Doctor  on BBC radio Scotland. The theory came from a study in 1997 but there is no evidence to support it.

30.00  How bigger women are portrayed in the media with no heads just torsos or bottoms . And the narrative of blaming and scapegoating.

32.40 Amber's personal journey to two positive birth experiences.

37.14 How it feels to give birth: number 1 Amber felt like a warrior.

40.47 In her second birth Amber felt like a goddess. 

46.00  The comparison of how Amber felt and was treated at home and in hospital with hospital feeling like an impersonal conveyor belt where noone remembered her name and at home where the power lay with her and everyone knew her name.

47.26 Amber's vision would see high BMI women treated as the norm and be mindful of risks but not treat differently instead be very positive about the outcomes as there is no reason to be anything else.

48.00 Advice: Do your research and don't expect your doctor to know everything about your personal circumstances and what is best for you.  Use BRAINS acronym to help you.

Phoebe Pallotti – Birth Confidence Summit

Apologies for some of the sound quality. There were a few connection problems. As a bonus to make up for this I have also included a written interview with Phoebe. Scroll down below the bio to read it and scroll further down to see time stamps for the video interview.

Phoebe Pallotti Bio

Phoebe is a mother, practising midwife, doula and an Associate Professor of Midwifery, mainly specialising in research on global and local maternal health inequalities. her background is in medical anthropology and she is a passionate feminist. Out of work she plays the piano exceptionally badly, enjoys writing with a bit more skill and likes to cackle anarchically with the people she loves. Read her experiences in Malawi here

Q1. How did your passion for birth begin and what called you to become a midwife?

I was brought up by a very strident second wave feminist, a young single parent, which was not a very easy thing to be in Thatcher's Britain. Social inequality was something that I experienced and observed and I went to University to study Anthropology - essentially the philosophy of people as I have always seen it. During my first undergraduate I became very interested in the anthropology of birth; both different customs and practices but also the social, political and feminist context of birth. I decided to retrain as a midwife because I thought at the time that birth was the last great battle of feminism. It is not. It is the first, and we are still fighting it. Birth is either the cradle of female power, the point of departure when we believe in ourselves and our bodies in a way not constrainable by the patriarchy. Or it is the crucible of woman's oppression - a seminal, powerful and creative moment of our lives denied us as control is stripped away and our own instincts are erased from the conversation. It became my passion to divert the course of the river towards the former, not the latter, though I still have reservations that I have much impact as a researcher in this, despite the feminist underpinnings of my work. We've just founded a Maternity Cooperative based on loosely anarchist and very definite feminist principles in Sheffield. Watch this space, for that one.

Q2. You spent some time in Malawi volunteering as a midwife. What did you learn
from experiencing birth in a different culture? What are some of the highlights of your
international work
?

Mostly what I learnt from my time as a midwife in Malawi (I wasn't technically a volunteer, I worked for the governmental NHS like most midwives in Malawi, they just didn't pay me 😉 was that there is no corner of the world in which the colonialist patriarchy has not brutally inserted itself. That said, I was mainly in a University Hospital in the largest city in Malawi, so most of my experiences were in a highly interventionist ward, dictated by colonial intervention in the health system. Maybe things are different in more rural locations - although the maternal mortality in Malawi is high regardless of location of birth so there must still be certain issues. Personally, I loved Malawi (there is a blog about my more general experiences at www.phoebepallotti.com - scroll down to find the Malawi bits) it is a stunning country and I lived in a very gentle community there - coming home was rather jangling to the nerves, thereafter. But my experiences of birth there are always going to be coloured by my work as an international researcher in maternity - I could go on at length about models of delays in care, about the obstetric threshold (whereby women in half the world die for lack of treatment and the other half from over treatment) if this is of interest to you? Women generally at the unit were not heard, their experiences were erased and human rights were thin on the ground - very much like my experiences in the UK in fact. There were some issues with stock outs and particularly for kit in maintaining asepsis (sterility) but generally my colleagues were highly experienced and very skilled. I learnt a lot from them all. One of the biggest challenges was in responding appropriately to a different extended care situation - by this I mean, as an example, saving a baby born in poor condition at all costs is something we would do without thinking here. In Malawi, where ongoing paediatric care is minimal, different axes of decision making need to be applied. This speaks to the wider discourse of modern medical colonialism - effective treatment and strategies need to be developed and led by people who really understand the situation, which is mostly but not always, local women and Malawian staff. Madonna, in penance for her unpopularity due to her rather strong handed adoption of a Malawian boy, gifted an MRI machine to my hospital. Unfortunately, the nearest supply of liquid helium to run the damn thing is 2000 miles away with no appropriate transport mechanism. So really it's just a very expensive bed taking up otherwise useful space. That.

Q3. Your research focuses on global women’s health and safe mother hood
initiatives and you also campaign for safe and dignified maternity care of women
seeking asylum in the UK. What particular issues do you see for women in
marginalised groups that need to be addressed for these women to be confident
giving birth and to have positive experiences?

They are two particularly different issues to me - global women's health demands that we have a representation, a voice, a power within both the strategic planning of maternity services world wide, in maternity research, in local care provision and when we step onto the labour ward. Currently, in my opinion, we are still fighting to be present at all of these levels. For example, a recent bid for some training funds I put in came back with the comment that 'there was no evidence that midwives were capable of doing a PhD'. Where do you even start with that. Each level effects the other and due to the intersectional nature of inequality, women of colour are even less likely to be visible in all of these spheres, as well as women with disabilities, women who's families, gender identities and sexualities do not match up to the expected heteronormative constructs. All we are doing, from researchers, to Birthrights, to Maternity Action and the White Ribbon Alliance, as well as the fierce radical midwives in practice and the women campaigning and bravely sharing their own experiences - this all makes a difference and on we must go.

Women in the UK Immigration system however, have all of the issues above but a particular set of barriers and vulnerabilities set by the way the Home Office treats asylum seekers and refugees. What shocked me most when I began to work for Medical Justice, was not that the Home Office was systemically racist, I knew that already from the experiences of people I love, over the years. What shocked me was just how incompetent they were. Papers were lost, erroneous information was frequently recorded and many of the consultations I reviewed to write medico-legal reports would have seen the nurse or doctor sacked, had they worked for the NHS. I can't be more specific about this without the patients permission but I can tell you stories off the record if you want. Preferably with wine. Mostly, access is an issue, from being dispersed and not knowing how or where to access care, lack of continuity, to language barriers, feeling afraid of being charged for care (often because they are told, often wrongly, that they will be), fear of being deported because the clinician will report them to the home office if their documentation isn't in order (which happens). This is a very specific inequality, entirely created by a racist and misogynistic system. We did, in the end, win the battle to stop the Home Office indefinitely detaining pregnant women in immigration detention prisons, but it was only a first step, there is still so much to be done here. 

Q4. What is your vision for the future of birth and motherhood? And what do we
need to do collectively to get there?

My vision is that women and parents will have control over the maternity services they receive in a meaningful way, with human rights being the alpha and omega of care planning and provision. One of my current 'rambles in the key of anarchism' is that I think an industrialised health service, like the NHS, is not fundamentally capable of providing genuinely 'patient centred' care. I love the NHS, I fight for it and value it. As a Dr in Public Health, I know that the NHS is the only thing ameliorating our terrible health outcomes, given the extremely high level of social inequality in the UK - much worse than most other European countries. But I don't think the system, as it currently stands, works well for maternity and birth. So, for example, it is really important to know that the quality of heart surgery you will get in London is roughly the same as the quality in Glasgow - it's unfair and unsafe otherwise. It's really important to concentrate expertise for rare conditions so that clinicians are well experienced and the services are efficient (my daughter had heart surgery in the Freeman, Newcastle, one of only half a dozen paediatric cardiac centres in England. They were beyond amazing and we are so, so grateful). It's also really important to make sure that primary care (GPs) are available and of a good standard in every area (though I'm with Marmot on the fact that they are often not - there are inequalities in care provision, but that is entirely another discussion).

Thus, a standardised, scalable and universal set of health procedures and supplies must be in place for the 60 million or so people in the UK - this is industrialisation. The point is, pregnancy is not an illness - it does not belong to the world of medicine but to the world of family, community, wise elders and the children who will be siblings. Of course women can experience illness in pregnancy, of course there are some risks attached to birth, as there are in many life events, but it is not fundamentally a disease. With the forced cooption of birth into the medical profession (13 million midwives burnt as witches in Europe, left a nice space for the surgeons to step into) and the modernist turn to the industrialisation of all medicine birth has been treated as an illness for a good few centuries and with the push for unit births in the 60s and 70s, now an almost entirely institutionalised one. This has left us with a care system which has been hollowed out of relational support and also care over which women have little control. I loved Better Births (2016), we all did, but a lot of the implementation of a drive towards continuity of care has replaced an intuitive understanding of the real benefit of relational care. This benefit is that a midwife who knows you, cares about you will help you feel safe, will detect any changes that are significant to you, will protect you from the things you don't want because they know you don't want them. Instead what we seem to have is the dismantling of a lot of established community teams to ensure the target that you will be seen in labour by a midwife you have met once is achieved. The drive for 'personalised' care seems really, from a very cynical perspective, to mean considering more data points about you in order to feed you into a more particular part of the machine. We organise inductions of labour in response to staffing, we restrict choices of location of birth because of service needs. What you want really is what you are allowed to have in this system.

So what do we need? We need to reclaim birth as a community, local, grass roots, unscalable (but by sharing practice openly, replicable) care which is right for those women, those parents, those midwives (because we are people, mothers, lovers too) and other birth workers. We need cooperatives and other community organisations, run equally by families and birth workers local action groups, our own space to make our own decisions and share our own skills. Of course we need more respect, more family friendly facilities and more oversight on consent in birth. But really what we need is the power back.

Q5. What would you suggest as a starting point for a woman who is currently
terrified of birth for a multitude of reasons and can’t imagine she will ever feel
confident, that this is a dream for others and not for her?

Find a doula, find an advocate, find a witch, get some back up in because, and I know this from my personal experience giving birth - you cannot fight this alone when you're already in lithotomy (both metaphorical and literal). No one can. We need to stand together at the cradle, not just at the parliament. We are not alone, one of the greatest myths of the patriarchy is that we are. 

Q6. In what ways do you see women’s confidence getting undermined and what do
you see as the solution or support for that?

I can't really answer this question in isolation as it's not her 'confidence' which is knocked by the institutionalised, patriarchal system (as above, ad nauseum) but her fundamental belief in her own instincts, in her own body and therefore in her own power as a mother - fathers/other parents also suffer this almost just as acutely. As above, she/they need to understand that the power is theirs and to do that, they need good advocacy, support and love from the outset. Find your team, find your community.

Q7. Do you have any final thoughts or insight that you would love every woman
listening to this interview to take forwards into her life and journey as a mother?

​Whatever your birth, whatever your body, whatever you need - believe that your voice should and will be heard.

Time Stamps for Video Interview

Phoebe's interest developed through an lens of feminism and a degree in anthropology. SHe shares a transformational story of a woman who had a very standard birth in hospital but due to achieving what she wanted and feeling in control was very happy.

4.54 First time mothers need a team, a tribe, and partners need support too.

7.00 Everyone needs a witch. Witches were just midwives throughout history, The bad rap is exactly the battle. If we stand up for ourselves we are being subversive and evil not reasonable and confident

Patriarchial system not men we are all part of the system and this is the problem.

Woman bossy and man seen as confident. Pejorative discourse

8.30 Being talked over during a consultant appointment where all questions were addressed to her husband.

12.02  With very few exceptions in small pockets, there isn’t a corner of the world in which medical colonisation has not invaded the space.  The concept of the white saviour is troubling and the example of Madonna's gift to the teaching hospital she worked in.

Intersectionality and different levels of power. In some cases even the right to be unseen has been eroded and birth by its nature is hidden.

17.00 The objective of having more medical attendants is good in terms of mortality  what are we missing? How much trauma is happening?

Making people feel alone and isolating them is a classic symptom of an oppressive regime making a team even more important.

19.50 Believe that you should be listened to and if you are not that is not your fault.  Your opinion intuition and feelings are the important thing, the core of safe birth not the nice fluffy bits on the side.

The problems of industrialisation of care in maternity and the limitations so far of the Better Birth Study.

Refuse to accept system issues as your personal problem. 

24.50 Get good evidence - Aims, RCOG, BirthRights.

You have the right to say no.

27.50  How we are conditioned since birth with tiny micro aggressions that favour the man and make it difficult to speak up in birth.

Women are tired and also increasingly angry

The telling use of the word decline when it is really a choice. Women need control over what is happening and should not be put in defensive positions.

36.10  The burden of proof in maternity care rests on you proving the alternative is safe. which is wrong and often ignoring the evidence base. Scientific discourse is seen as proof and women as witchy  and not true but the science is not necessarily evidence based. The real truth is it is  who has the power.

41.00 Work through peoples assumptions. If she feels it’s a valid reason, it’s a valid reason.

Whatever your birth whatever your body whatever you need. Believe that your voice should and would be heard

Need people with megaphone to help your voice be heard but it should be heard.  We need voice and need  the power back. I am  not asking for too,  much just everything.

Rebecca Moore – Birth Confidence Summit

Quick Links from the interview:

Make Birth Better Website including downloadable cribsheets on all aspects of trauma symptoms, what is birth trauma, the traumatised brain, mindfulness for birth and  self care for professionals to name but a few.

Every Word Counts Campaign

The fifth Annual Birth Trauma Conference In London on Wednesday January 22nd

The Birth Trauma Association a charity that supports women who suffer birth trauma – a shorthand term for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after birth. They also have a closed facebook group for parent support

Rebecca's Bio

Rebecca is a consultant perinatal psychiatrist based in London working with women to support their mental wellness through pregnancy and the postpartum. She has a special expertise in birth trauma.

She believes in working holistically and is likely to prescribe exercise and supplements as well therapy and medication.

Rebecca is the Co Founder of Make Birth Better a national collaborative of parents and professionals working to reduce the life changing impact of physical and psychological birth trauma.

She writes, podcasts and lectures all around the U.K and internationally.

Outside of work Rebecca is a mum, training to be a yoga teacher and an avid reader and traveller.

Instagram @drrebeccamoore

Time Stamps

4.00  The importance of feeling prepared and what factors contribute to not feeling prepared. Antenatal education that includes all the narratives on birth can help women feel more in control and confident.

5.20 The importance of involving partners and having education as a family to be.

Remember to plan for the postnatal period whilst still pregnant as we all have a learning curve to go through once we have a baby.

9.00 Honour what you did do rather than focusing on what you didn't.  Reframe your achievements- they don't have to be big things to be significant. e.g. getting up is brilliant. 

11.40 The Story of how Make Birth Better came into being from hearing women come back feeling alone with noone asking them about how their births went.. Now it has grown exponentially with enquiries from all around the world.

13.02 Systems that are burnt out themselves and not able to give best care create a vicious circle.

18.00 Be courageous to pluck up the courage to tell someone how you feel and recognise what is going on. We also need to do more to reach out to mums and not put the onus on them to reach out to professionals.

22.00 About the Annual conference on Birth Trauma - this year on 22nd January.Tickets Eventbrite

25.00 What is trauma? This can feel like a big word. If a part of your birth felt overwhelming or out of control then you may be left with knock on effects such as anxiety over protective feelings for your baby and in ability to relax. If these are present continuously or most of the time then seek support - GP or Health visitor is a starting point. Each surgery in the UK should have a perinatal champion. Pick someone you feel safe with

Having healing therapy is helpful to explore what happened and feel in control of  your feelings. The  birth trauma association  has a closed fb group. 

31.57 Every word counts This was a powerful social media campaign where women shared words that had impacted them positively or negatively in birth and you can view the video at the page. What came out of this was that very tiny differences to use of language can make powerful difference.

35.00 Poor Maternal effort after 40 + hours of labour and no food or sleep. This is a good illustration of how language can impact.  Check if what you have said is what has been understood.

38.00  BRAIN - Acronym for asking the right questions . Use your partner as an advocate and challenge poor care. Do not be afraid to ask questions.

40.38  The importance of kindness  and how this can be lost in systems where the staff are burnt out. WE need to look  after our amazing front line staff better.

42.53 Rebecca's big vision for the future and why having a big vision is important.

46.39  The cost of solving problems is tiny compared to the costs we are already paying for resultant health problems which is very short sighted.

If you are struggling. reach out and ask for help.

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